Dating in Dubai
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Being single in Dubai can be tough! Dating is a real challenge with Expats coming and going. It’s hard to find someone who is here to stay and willing to settle down, rather than here to have a fling or short-lived holiday-style romance. The city has a lot of fun nightclubs, brunches and beach clubs which are all fun and games within the first year or so living here but after some time, the novelty wears off and you just want that one special person to come home to after a long, hot day!

So where do you find that person? Out at the weekends or at a ladies’ night you are unlikely to have much luck; very rarely when drinking or partying is involved will you come across an eligible partner or come across as one yourself! It can be very confusing who to approach and how, it is often an overwhelming process and usually seems to result in a meaningless fling... or the person with whom you thought you could have a future with leaving the country... or finding out they aren’t genuine and already in a relationship/married!

There are the dating apps as well, of course, but the chances of finding “the one” through this method are quite slim. Don’t get me wrong, there are a lucky few who meet someone special online but, let’s be honest, it takes a huge investment of time, a lot of patience, not to mention the fact that these apps have become a sort of game for most and you are only matching based on the initial attraction to a (most likely) unrealistically edited or filtered photo. Online dating can be quite superficial, brutal and disappointing.

With hundreds of different nationalities, cultures and religious beliefs in one place, it is also sometimes tricky finding a suitable mate with similar interests, morals and values.

With all of the challenges mentioned above (I am sure you can also think of many more!) it can sometimes be disheartening dating in Dubai. Some of you may feel like giving up and forgetting about finding love in this city... but please don’t give up! There are so many wonderful people here and in similar situations to you, they are waiting to find someone too, you just need to be connected. Life is so much more beautiful when you have someone you love to share it with. Dubai is an amazing place to be in a couple with awesome date venues and many stunning hotels, beaches and numerous locations to enjoy romantic staycation getaways. There are many happy couples here, let them inspire you and keep you motivated to find love yourself.

If you would like to discuss how we can help make the process of finding your partner easier then please get in touch. Helping people find their match is our passion and there is nothing we want more than to be part of your successful love story!

Signs you are in a mature loving relationship

Mature love has less to do with your age and more to do with how your love has evolved over time. It has to do with your willingness to love each other unconditionally and stay committed (even through the tough times.) Even after the newlywed/honeymoon phase has ended, and even after the euphoric feeling of new love ends, these couples are able to evolve into a deeper more committed type of love...a mature love.

Here are some characteristics of couples with mature love:

1. THEY ARE INTENTIONAL ABOUT MAKING THEIR MARRIAGES WORK. People that have mature love...have it because they put in the work. In the article, The Truth about Falling Out of Love, Amy Morin- LCSW says: "People who experience mature love don’t allow themselves to passively fall out of love. Instead, they take action. Choosing to take your relationship to the next level doesn't come easy. It requires you to behave in a way that is contrary to your feelings at times. It takes hard work, dedication and commitment."

2. THEY CONTINUE TO HAVE LOVING ACTIONS, EVEN WHEN LOVING FEELINGS AREN'T PRESENT. People that have mature love know that marriages have their seasons and their ups and downs. And even when they are going through their rough spells, they continue to have loving actions for each other. Dr. Johnny C. Parker, Jr., author of Renovating Your Marriage Room by Room, says: "When a couple chooses loving actions, often times loving feelings emerge again."

3. THEY SET GOALS. Goals are a great way for you to grow your marriage and family. Goals provide direction for your marriage and will strengthen your relationship as you work together to achieve them.

4. THEY KNOW HOW TO LOVE EACH OTHER. These couples take the time to find out how their partner needs to feel love (their love language) and then they choose to do it. Understanding each other's love language is one of the keys to having lasting love.

5. THEY KNOW HOW TO WORK THROUGH THEIR PROBLEMS...TOGETHER. We've seen couples overcome infidelity, financial issues and more. And the one thing that makes them different from couples that do not survive the storms is their ability to work (together) to solve their problems. Couples that have mature love work as a team!

SIOBHAN COPLANDComment
The Royal Wedding and marrying your type

As a matchmaker, I always talk to people about their types and preferences, look at their dating history, what usually catches their eye, and what is it that captures their heart.

What catches the eye is important, but it’s the qualities in a person, that really captures your heart.

Like the way they love animals, or the kindness they show to the homeless person on the street, the way they hold your hair back after a drunken night or bring you tea and toast. It’s the little things in a relationship that ultimately go a long way, and a person’s character, that you really grow to appreciate beyond the initial physical attraction.

Everyone is talking about the Royal wedding, taking place this weekend, and all eyes will be on the beautiful bride, Mixed race actress Meghan Markle.

But would have people betted on Harry marrying a mixed race, American, divorcee?

On paper, it probably doesn’t sound like a match.

Most would assume looking at his dating history, he would have ended up marrying an English, blonde, Oxford/Cambridge/Eton educated, unmarried woman.

 

If Harry had gone on a dating site, he himself would have probably put certain filters in place, meaning he probably would have never got to meet Meghan.

But they were introduced by a friend, who thought they would click, and sure enough they did!

 

Now friends are not always the best matchmakers, often they think because they know two single friends, that is enough reason to make the introduction.

As if being single is a stigma and they just want to see you in a relationship, as if you don’t even meet any other single people.

 

But meeting through someone else is a great way to meet, as you’re not just meeting a random stranger off the street, you’re meeting someone who someone else has vouched for. Meaning they are likely to be of good character. The only thing friends cannot tell is whether you will have that chemistry.

If I were to have matchmade Harry, I wouldn’t have just shown him pretty blondes, I would have introduced him to a blonde or brunette, with a pretty face, a good sense of what goes on in the world, someone who doesn’t take herself too seriously, laid back, keeps calm under pressure, smart, switched on, and a little bit of feistiness about her, I get the impression he likes a woman that can put him in his place a bit when he’s been a little too cheeky! And a jolly good sense of humour.

I’ve never met either of them, but I get that impression from Meghan and can see that cheeky glint in both their eyes.

I just hope the paps will leave them to enjoy as normal lives as possible.

And to all the frizzy hair girls out there like me, here’s proof that you don’t have to have long blonde flowing hair, to find your prince!